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Attraction
Chris Gillis

Asking ‘What Are Your Intentions’ Too Soon Is a Bad Idea  

It’s a completely fair question eventually, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting clarity about what someone is actually looking for. In the first ten minutes of a first date, though, it tends to land as an interrogation rather than an honest, natural conversation starter, and it can put the whole

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Relationship Advice
Chris Gillis

 Why Did She Go Quiet Halfway Through the Date? 

You’re forty minutes into a date that felt like it was going somewhere, and then it isn’t anymore. She’s still nodding along, still giving you short answers, still technically present. But the energy in the room has dropped by half and you can’t quite point to the moment it happened.

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Relationship Advice
Chris Gillis

Checking Your Phone on a Date Is a Bad Idea

This one shouldn’t need an entire blog post. It should be obvious. And yet it keeps showing up, over and over, in the stories women tell about dates that fell flat, and in the small admissions guys make in coaching sessions when I ask them to walk me through their

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Date Ideas
Chris Gillis

Who Pays on the First Date?

There’s no single universal rule anymore, and anyone who tells you there is hasn’t actually looked at the data or talked to enough people about it. But there is a strong pattern, and it’s worth knowing before you’re standing there awkwardly at the end of a meal wondering what to

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Relationship Advice
Chris Gillis

Should You Talk About Money on a First Date?  

Short answer: probably not the way you’re currently doing it. Bringing up your income, your title, your bonus, what you drive, rarely connects the way you think it will. In your head, it’s meant to signal stability and success, things that are genuinely attractive in a partner. In practice, it

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Relationship Advice
Chris Gillis

Getting Defensive on a Date Is a Bad Idea  

She asks a mildly pointed question, maybe something about your last relationship, or why you’re still single at your age, or whether you’ve ever been in a long-term relationship at all. And something in your chest tightens. Your answer gets a little shorter. Your tone shifts, just slightly, in a

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